I've made this an actual entry because to many people might not read all the comments left on a particular entry and I wanted to show the person who keeps writing that I have not fear of his comments; even if he will not disclose his name. I don’t even know if it’s a man or a woman. For our sake here, I’m going to assume it’s a man.
For full disclosure sake the person that made the last comment is mad at me because I have not published his latest new comment. He takes it as if I don't want to look bad. What he does not understand is, looking bad I have no challenge with. Letting people post things out of anger, spite and self pity, blaming their challenges on everyone else and not taking any responsibility for themselves; that I have a challenge with.
Here’s his complaint in a nut shell. He says that I and Robert Allen have ruined his life through the things he learned from us. He blames me and Mr. Allen because he bought homes in a market that was doing well and now can't unload them since the market is not doing as well. His position is that this whole real estate thing is BS and that his life is a mess because of me and Robert Allen. He claims that he lost thousands of dollars to me personally because he spent money getting educated and it was all for nothing. (Interesting that depending on him either buying my home study course or actually coming to my two day event, since he won't tell me who he is I can't tell, he would have paid between $300 to $1200 on my course. I don't know how that breaks down to "Thousands" but he is obviously miffed about the "big money" he spent with Mr. Allen and Mr. Allen doesn’t have a blog he can complain on.)
All I can say to that is I'm sorry things are not working out the way he planned. I apologize that I could not make him successful. I feel bad that he has such a bitter and angry taste in his mouth about me and real estate in general.
When someone is having a bad go at something they of course want to blame everyone and their brother. It is normal to be pissed off at whoever told you this or that was a good idea. What can I say? He's mad.
The strategies and principles must be working for someone though. I myself am in the middle of a short sale that we are projecting to make a lot of money on. I just got back from Chicago where I was speaking with a gentleman out of Denver who is making money hand over fist in bank REO's. One of my student couples just emailed me two days ago telling me about a house they took over using the strategies they learned from me with a ton of equity in it that they are going to seller finance and make a decent profit from.
The question that this person brings up for me is why does it work for some and not others? Why is it that I can guarantee, wherever this person is from, there are other investors doing just fine in this market? I guess that question will never be fully answered, at least not well enough for someone in a frame of mind where it's everyone else's fault that they are not successful. Go to any one of the real estate investors groups in your area and you will find people that are doing just great in this market. Will you find people in your exact same situation? I guarantee it. Will you find others that are pissed off because they paid for education that just doesn’t seem to be working? Yep. They will be easy to find. They tend to attract to each other and love to commiserate with each other.
I really feel bad for this person. It must really suck. I'm not going to defend myself or what I have taught him and others. I don't need to. I'm not going to get in a blog fight or war of words with him or anyone else. We all have challenges come up in our lives. I have crappy day’s weeks and months. I have had BAD deals and will have bad deals in the future. No one ever said that you or I wouldn't. I never promised anyone that there would be no challenges in the game of real estate investing. I never predicted the future of the market in your specific area. I definitely never forced anyone to buy a property.
Do I care that he is ticked off? Yep. I wouldn’t take the time to write if I didn’t. I do know that all of my students have my email and office phone number and I always answer to help in any way I can. If being mad at me helps him deal with the crap he is going through then fine. I have a stack of testimonials from others and I hear stories all the time of the exact opposite view.
The best lesson all of us can learn from this person is; when things get tough, when it really is “hitting the fan”, we all can choose to play the blame game or we can choose to get off our duff’s and move forward. That is my wish for this person. That they move forward and find a way to become successful in spite of how he feels about me or anyone else.
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Well- I think I have said what I have to say and you have said what you have to. There is definitely no resolve to this on your end as it will always be my fault that your life has turned out the way it has.
I apologize that i was not able to see the future and predict the exact time the housing market would turn and how it would effect you.
I take issue with two things you claim. I have never "helped" anyone purchase a property or "assured" them that it was worth it. Evaluate the property based on information given to me by the student? Discuss the pros and cons of the deal? Encourage the student to make a move? Of those I am guilty. The final decision on any property is up to the investor.
The second issue is your blatant use of religion to assume I am not an honest person. I am assuming that you did not buy my system or any other system based on religion. I will also assume that your religion teaches of personal responsibility. As for my being honest or not, take the mote out of your own eye and try being honest with yourself about why you are in this situation. I have never taken advantage of anyone. I live my religion and faith everyday. Your usage of my religion assumes that because we might share it, I am responsible for your lively hood and good judgment.
"as my instructor, trainer and mentor, should have been able to know the signs of a bad deal or a market that was turning and advised me as such." once again, I was not aware that I was to predict the future. Who can do that? Who would expect that from someone else?
If I had that magical ability, I assure you, I would be a much wealthier man.
You assume that I have gotten rich from forfeiting my integrity. As if I got rich off of you and the information I shared with you. The $30 a session I was paid to coach you definately did not make me rich. Working hard, getting up when I am down, helping others that require help, giving of myself and using the gifts God has given me to make my way in life is how I am securing my future.
If you like, you can continue to blame me for your life. It's been my experience, however, that that only keeps you going backward.
There are many other misrepresentations you have mentioned in your comments but I feel no need to respond. You have made up your mind about me. (The fact that I am even responding to you should say something about me as most would not bother).
I wish nothing but the best for you and your family. Believe it or not, my heart was always in a place of help, education and desire for you to get everything you wanted. That you have spent sleepless nights frustrated, angry and worried about your investments, I can empathize with. I hope someday you will be able to get over your anger for me.
It's obvious that you do not know me if you actually think it's "all about the green" for me.
All my best.
Thank you for cementing your character for me. I should probably not respond to this, but as a good coach would do, I need to put you back on track. I really hope you have not built up any of your anger towards me based on this information since you have no idea what you are talking about. Whoever you heard that bit of gossip from has you well uninformed. If you only had your facts straight, you might have an argument.
I have made no secret about me being terminated from EWI. I actually use it in some of my speeches. It was however, a stupid mistake that I made when it comes to passing along information to my students about possible deals that I had heard of. Information that I was first told was fine to pass along by one member of management only to later find out that is was not. No money was ever going to be nor has been made by myself or anyone I know on the information. Not one cent.
I really feel sorry for you if this is the how you live your life. Obviously you enjoy gossip and spewing vile and that is an unfortunate way to live your life.
All of the information I have about my relationship with EWI is documented through very respectful emails between myself and the owners. Your's it seems is based on gossip and assumption.
Once again, I only wish you the best. Good luck.
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